So, walking tonight I have an epiphany. Not a good one either.
Im losing weight for health reasons(obviously) but also for my own vanity and social reasons. But the thought dawned on me...what if my fat was not the reason I havent been in a relationship in years. What if I drop all this weight and realize that Im just not someone men want to date? Its a scary prospect. I always thought that my "guy habits" (liking sports, drinking beer, being easy going, etc) were pluses in a mans eyes. But what if Im wrong. Do guys want to date girl versions of themselves? I mean, I can put on lipstick and a miniskirt, but underneath that, my personality stays the same. Are friendship and sex really the only thing I have to offer members of the opposite sex? Its a daunting question, one that I hope to have answered soon.
I walked every single day this week, except for Saturday. When I played kickball. I stayed within my points every day...even if I didnt always make the greatest food decisions. I made a real effort to get back on track with this. I am hoping it is reflected into tomorrows weigh in.
Happy Mommas Day to all my moms out there!
Xo!
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Mary there if thats what you like then maybe you just haven't found the right match....also maybe you (as I can do) pick guys that are obviously not good for me. I think that if you are happy with who you are you shouldn't change who you are for ANYONE. Losing part of yourself for someone else is a loss, no matter what. Your amazing Mary. I realy can say that with ease.
ReplyDeleteLosing weight isn't going to instantly attract a boyfriend. If you want a good relationship, invest in yourself first. Becoming a healthier person is a great start. Then find hobbies, pursue your interests, live your life full of the things you love to do. Make yourself busy enjoying your life. When you're confident in yourself and your own (single) life, men will come running. :)
ReplyDeleteMy roommate and I talk about this all the time- we both have a tendency to "bro out" as we call it. But we've come to notice that being one of the guys doesn't benefit us- so we both are constantly working on being more feminine. More classy and ladylike- that's what tends to get us the most dates. I mean, of course we're still ourselves, if we enjoy sports, we enjoy sports. But we can also put on lipstick and pretty dresses and do our hair and be feminine too. If you think you need to be a little more feminine, do it! Couldn't hurt to try and see, right? If it makes you uncomfortable, then cut it out. There's nothing wrong with trying new things to find what works best for you baby girl. :)
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